The experience you’ve had may be unwanted, may amount to nothing but damage and waste, but experience has substance, is factual, authoritative, lives on in your past and affects your present, whatever you attempt to do about it.
The experience you’ve had may be unwanted, may amount to nothing … Read More
Every shrink knows that it’s not the event itself but how you respond to it that tells the story. Take ten assorted individuals, expose them all to the same life trial, and they will each suffuse it with exquisite personal detail and meaning.
Every shrink knows that it’s not the event itself but how … Read More
As for herself, every morning on waking she gives thanks to the God she doesn’t disbelieve in. Although she can’t credit him with saving her, she needs this outlet for her gratitude.
As for herself, every morning on waking she gives thanks to … Read More
In spite of what anyone says it’s women who make the rules.
In spite of what anyone says it’s women who make the … Read More
There are lots of reasons why a woman stays with a man, even when she’s given up on changing him and can predict with certainty the shape that the rest of her life with him is going to take.
There are lots of reasons why a woman stays with a … Read More
We are all mediums for our own basic truths. All we really have in life is the primal force that moves us through our days – our unvarnished, untutored, ever-present, inborn agency.
We are all mediums for our own basic truths. All we … Read More
In asserting that people don’t change, what she means is that they don’t change for the better. Whereas changing for the worse, that goes without saying.
In asserting that people don’t change, what she means is that … Read More
Autumn can be glorious but menacing too – the long shadows, brisk winds, scurrying leaves, impending frost.
Autumn can be glorious but menacing too – the long shadows, … Read More
Acceptance is supposed to be a good thing – Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change. Also compromise, as every couples therapist will tell you. But the cost was high – the damping of expectation, the dwindling of spirit, the resignation that comes to replace enthusiasm, the cynicism that supplants hope. The mouldering that goes unnoticed and unchecked.
Acceptance is supposed to be a good thing – Grant me … Read More
Life has a way of taking its toll on the person you thought you were.
Life has a way of taking its toll on the person … Read More
It’s a known fact that in certain contexts people’s great strengths become their epic failings.
It’s a known fact that in certain contexts people’s great strengths … Read More
You will not be the same person coming out of a relationship as you were going into it.
You will not be the same person coming out of a … Read More
We live alone in our cluttered psyches, possessed by our entrenched beliefs, our fatuous desires, our endless contradictions – and like it or not we have to put up with this in one another.
We live alone in our cluttered psyches, possessed by our entrenched … Read More
Other people are not here to fulfill our needs or meet our expectations, nor will they always treat us well. Failure to accept this will generate feelings of anger and resentment. Peace of mind comes with taking people as they are and emphasizing the positive.
Other people are not here to fulfill our needs or meet … Read More
She didn’t know then that life has a way of backing you into a corner. You make your choices when you’re far too young to understand their implications, and with each choice you make the field of possibility narrows. You choose a career and other careers are lost to you. You choose a mate and commit to loving no other.
She didn’t know then that life has a way of backing … Read More
Basic personality traits develop early in life and over time become inviolable, hardwired. Most people learn little from experience, rarely thinking of adjusting their behavior, see problems as emanating from those around them, and keep on doing what they do in spite of everything, for better or worse.
Basic personality traits develop early in life and over time become … Read More